Dentist
***Official FBG Dentist***
The only bridesmaid is my other sisterSplit.
Get a divorce before 11/3 and go to sister's wedding. Get drunk and hit on bridesmaids.
The only bridesmaid is my other sisterSplit.
Get a divorce before 11/3 and go to sister's wedding. Get drunk and hit on bridesmaids.
Have your sister put you guys in the wedding. Then you both have no choice but to go.The only bridesmaid is my other sister
That would be my ideal, I don't like them. But that's the worst idea with no chance of happeningSkip both weddings.
This is a completely reasonable and logical take.Anyway, unless my wife's cousin is more like my wife's sister who is her best friend in the world, the whole family is going to the sister's wedding. Can't believe this is actually a debate.
The cousin will find another cute kid to be the ring bearer. If she doesn't understand your family going to your own sister's wedding (your kids' aunt's wedding), she's nutso. All cause she booked the date first? FOH.
Invent a time machine so you can go to both weddings.That would be my ideal, I don't like them. But that's the worst idea with no chance of happening
Thousand-dollar increments of bling are standardized and uniformly proportionedwhich one has the bigger rack?
That's b/c you're a dudeI don't understand why your wife cares if your sister doesn't like her.
I'm thinking he sends wife and kids to cousins wedding and he works all day to make sure the costs of attending the wedding don't delay retirementNo way Dentist is splitting the family up and paying for two separate gifts AND the extra gas to go to two different weddings.
That's the difference between retiring on 8/15/32 and 8/16/32.
<=================== *ahem*Invent a time machine so you can go to both weddings.
worst use of a time machine everInvent a time machine so you can go to both weddings.
Get really drunk and hit on bridesmaids.The only bridesmaid is my other sister
Confession: I liked this before I even read it, just for the color coding. But now that I've read it, yep.Just have to list each scenario out and the expected results. This is an easy one from my point of view.
Scenario A: All go to cousin's wedding.
Result:
- Sister angry at Dentist
- Cousin happy
- Wife happy
- Dentist bored at cousin's wedding
Scenario B: All go to sister's wedding.
Result:
- Sister happy
- Cousin angry at Mrs. Dentist
- Mrs. Dentist angry at Dentist (whether she admits it or not)
- Dentist bored at sister's wedding
Scenario C: Dentist goes to sister's wedding, wife+kids go to cousin's.
Result:
- Sister happy with Dentist
- Sister angry at Mrs. Dentist
- Wife happy
- Cousin happy
- Dentist can get as ####ty drunk as he wants!!!!
That is not the case in all families. It should be the case but it isn't always the case due to life happening and relationships getting turned around. Sounded like from the first description that the cousin is like a sister to the wife. If they are that close and already committed to participating in the wedding it won't do any good for anybody cancelling completely on that commitment.Whack responses. You and kids go to sister's wedding, your wife can do what she thinks is right. Who cares if the cousin planned her wedding 2 years ago. Just because they 'called' the date first doesn't mean they get your attention. The fact that should get the attention is that sister > cousin. Hands down. That woman is your kid's aunt. The cousin is your kids 2nd (?) cousin. I understand that puts them in a bind as the cousin loses a ring bearer but they should understand.
Why are you not in your sister's wedding party?The only bridesmaid is my other sister
Just have to list each scenario out and the expected results. This is an easy one from my point of view.
Scenario A: All go to cousin's wedding.
Result:
- Sister angry at Dentist
- Cousin happy
- Wife happy
- Dentist bored at cousin's wedding
Scenario B: All go to sister's wedding.
Result:
- Sister happy
- Cousin angry at Mrs. Dentist
- Mrs. Dentist angry at Dentist (whether she admits it or not)
- Dentist bored at sister's wedding
Scenario C: Dentist goes to sister's wedding, wife+kids go to cousin's.
Result:
- Sister happy with Dentist
- Sister angry at Mrs. Dentist
- Wife happy
- Cousin happy
- Dentist can get as ####ty drunk as he wants!!!!
Because he openly advocates for pooping on women?Why are you not in your sister's wedding party?
And the red bullet is pretty much status quo. Sister already has her reasons for not liking Mrs. Dentist so why bother trying to placate her?Scenario C: Dentist goes to sister's wedding, wife+kids go to cousin's.
Result:
- Sister happy with Dentist
- Sister angry at Mrs. Dentist
- Wife happy
- Cousin happy
- Dentist can get as ####ty drunk as he wants!!!!
I'll bet it's because Mrs. Dentist made Mr. Dentist buy a house and delay his retirement. That #### don't fly in the Dentist family.And the red bullet is pretty much status quo. Sister already has her reasons for not liking Mrs. Dentist so why bother trying to placate her?
Nobody in the Dentist clan buys a house without factoring in the appreciation of property value. Sister probably disapproves of Mrs. Dentist's choice of floss.I'll bet it's because Mrs. Dentist made Mr. Dentist buy a house and delay his retirement. That #### don't fly in the Dentist family.
This is pretty accurate minus the drunk part.. i had an incident at a family function where i got blackout drunk about 4 years ago and now multiple people "watch" what i'm drinking to prevent... I'm blackout free since '14.. i intend to keep it that wayJust have to list each scenario out and the expected results. This is an easy one from my point of view.
Scenario A: All go to cousin's wedding.
Result:
- Sister angry at Dentist
- Cousin happy
- Wife happy
- Dentist bored at cousin's wedding
Scenario B: All go to sister's wedding.
Result:
- Sister happy
- Cousin angry at Mrs. Dentist
- Mrs. Dentist angry at Dentist (whether she admits it or not)
- Dentist bored at sister's wedding
Scenario C: Dentist goes to sister's wedding, wife+kids go to cousin's.
Result:
- Sister happy with Dentist
- Sister angry at Mrs. Dentist
- Wife happy
- Cousin happy
- Dentist can get as ####ty drunk as he wants!!!!
She's a Rafa fan.Why are you not in your sister's wedding party?
what have you communicated to your sister at this point? The longer you let this sit out there without addressing the worse it is going to be IMO.
@Dentist goes to his sister’s wedding and Mrs Dentist goes to her cousin’s wedding, not sure how that is even a debate. I’d lean that he kids go to the wedding they are going to be a part of but perhaps allow them the choice. That is the only question in my mind.
While the sister has every right to pick the date of her wedding ahead of time, any complaints she might have on conflicts family have because she failed to check with them first are unwarranted. She might not see if that way but #### her.
oh.. now you had to bring Ralph into this? #### dirt tennisShe's a Rafa fan.
i need to double check times. The weddings are approximately 30 min apart by carCan you do cousin ceremony and pictures and then get to sister reception?
Well sheeeeit. If this thing is in the KC area just tell me which one you need me at. Would be happy to fill in for you.i need to double check times. The weddings are approximately 30 min apart by car
the actor is dead.. feels weirdNo advice but I wish you'd go back to your Jaws avi.
It's like the opposite of Wilked's answer! Fascinating.
This is exactly why I read FBG.
Then you definitely can't have your wife go to the sisters wedding. Only options are all go to cousin's, or split up. I think splitting up is the right thing to do unless you can manage one and then the other.Well my sister announced the engagement yesterday FROM HOLLAND where she had gone with the dude.. who i've met 4 times... and so i've not spoken to her about it because she's out of the country.
My kids aren't choosing anything.. they're 4 and 3.. they just want to goto the one with the bigger cake.
Let me add into this whole thing that my sister is insane with an attempt at suicide on her record.
Let me add more into this because the wife's cousin's mom died last year and my wife is filling the role of a "motherly presence" helped cousin pick out a wedding dress, etc, etc.
Leaving these details out of the OP is your second worst offense in this thread, behind thinking you should have been consulted about someone else's wedding date.Well my sister announced the engagement yesterday FROM HOLLAND where she had gone with the dude.. who i've met 4 times... and so i've not spoken to her about it because she's out of the country.
My kids aren't choosing anything.. they're 4 and 3.. they just want to goto the one with the bigger cake.
Let me add into this whole thing that my sister is insane with an attempt at suicide on her record.
Let me add more into this because the wife's cousin's mom died last year and my wife is filling the role of a "motherly presence" helped cousin pick out a wedding dress, etc, etc.
Wow - that is not good. Good luck with ever mending this one.Without making this a thread about my backstory, I had a situation where I was estranged with a lot of my family regarding a situation with my wife. I took her side in the scenario resulting in me cutting off most of my family for a couple years.. The family relationships had just starting getting mended and my brother tells me his is getting married and wants me to be in the wedding. Unfortunately it was the same day as our anniversary and my wife already had our 15 year wedding anniversary trip planned. We went out of the country instead of going to his wedding. I still feel bad about it. I should have made that work somehow.
You can't miss your sister's wedding.
i was typing along and the story got so long that it was turning into a TL;DR type of thing so i trimmed it down to the minimum i could.Leaving these details out of the OP is your second worst offense in this thread, behind thinking you should have been consulted about someone else's wedding date.
Forget my prior attempts to solve the problem.Well my sister announced the engagement yesterday FROM HOLLAND where she had gone with the dude.. who i've met 4 times... and so i've not spoken to her about it because she's out of the country.
My kids aren't choosing anything.. they're 4 and 3.. they just want to goto the one with the bigger cake.
Let me add into this whole thing that my sister is insane with an attempt at suicide on her record.
Let me add more into this because the wife's cousin's mom died last year and my wife is filling the role of a "motherly presence" helped cousin pick out a wedding dress, etc, etc.
Well that changes my opinion a bit.Well my sister announced the engagement yesterday FROM HOLLAND where she had gone with the dude.. who i've met 4 times... and so i've not spoken to her about it because she's out of the country.
My kids aren't choosing anything.. they're 4 and 3.. they just want to goto the one with the bigger cake.
Let me add into this whole thing that my sister is insane with an attempt at suicide on her record.
Let me add more into this because the wife's cousin's mom died last year and my wife is filling the role of a "motherly presence" helped cousin pick out a wedding dress, etc, etc.