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ask for a separate bill . not a big issue up here in Canada. if i go out friends or drinking buddies. Everyone can order what they want and afford.
The thing to do when “Let’s just split the check” is suggested is say “yeah, absolutely! Then ask the waiter for a menu, order 2 desserts and coffee with port and digestifs, and a couple of steak or lobster dishes to go.I have a different issue in eating out in group settings. Say two couples go out. Wife and I each get a moderate entree, a soft drink or water, no apps or desert. The other couple both get a couple of cocktails, an app, the most expensive entrees on the menu, and split a dessert. The bill comes and the couple throws down a credit card and suggests we split the bill. This happens way too frequently and involves my wife’s friends or relatives.
Since I am the one that usually gets the other half of the bill, I am not a huge fan of this situation. I don’t feel like subsidizing an extra $50+ for stuff we didn’t consume. The situation only gets worse when my wife’s solution is for me to pay the ENTIRE bill instead. (There is no quid pro quo where the other couple will pay the next time.)
And she said suggesting separate checks is embarrassing. That was my solution, but short of that I have to just realize I am going to take a loss in going out beforehand.
Agree it’s obnoxious, but isn’t that what many do on the company dime - expensive meals, hotels, flights, etc.?had a ahole co-worker....... that when we went to lunch and he knew company was paying so he would order most expensive thing on menu
At Chillis...orders appetizer. Full on steak dinner, soda and tea, brownie and ice cream desert....at lunch
ordering what you like is fine. always targeting the highest priced menu items is a Richard move imo.Agree it’s obnoxious, but isn’t that what many do on the company dime - expensive meals, hotels, flights, etc.?had a ahole co-worker....... that when we went to lunch and he knew company was paying so he would order most expensive thing on menu
At Chillis...orders appetizer. Full on steak dinner, soda and tea, brownie and ice cream desert....at lunch
Where I worked, the company had limits to how much they would reimburse you and had requirements stating you had to fly coach and stay in a budget hotel.Agree it’s obnoxious, but isn’t that what many do on the company dime - expensive meals, hotels, flights, etc.?had a ahole co-worker....... that when we went to lunch and he knew company was paying so he would order most expensive thing on menu
At Chillis...orders appetizer. Full on steak dinner, soda and tea, brownie and ice cream desert....at lunch
Agree you should order what you want, and not adjust it based on who’s paying. Alcohol makes it a little trickier though.ordering what you like is fine. always targeting the highest priced menu items is a Richard move imo.Agree it’s obnoxious, but isn’t that what many do on the company dime - expensive meals, hotels, flights, etc.?had a ahole co-worker....... that when we went to lunch and he knew company was paying so he would order most expensive thing on menu
At Chillis...orders appetizer. Full on steak dinner, soda and tea, brownie and ice cream desert....at lunch
Maybe not for you.Newsflash: going out to eat with a group of people isn't about eating
Some of us can multitask.Maybe not for you.Newsflash: going out to eat with a group of people isn't about eating
**UPDATE**in general, the server would prefer you not to stack the plates.Yeah, I think it’s the right thing to do, but sometimes wonder if the waitstaff prefers stacking plates/utensils in a specific way.I always do thisIf there are multiple empty plates, I occasionally stack them as well. I may be wrong, but I believe this helps the server, while decluttering the table
Related, I don’t like unnecessary removal of unused, or even lightly used flatware. Also try to reuse plates when I (rarely) go to buffets.
a bullet point for fine dining service: anything that is not being used should be removed from the table ASAP.
Where's that thread where we report suspected bots?
Did the child request a kids menu? Or was it printed on the regular menu?**UPDATE**in general, the server would prefer you not to stack the plates.Yeah, I think it’s the right thing to do, but sometimes wonder if the waitstaff prefers stacking plates/utensils in a specific way.I always do thisIf there are multiple empty plates, I occasionally stack them as well. I may be wrong, but I believe this helps the server, while decluttering the table
Related, I don’t like unnecessary removal of unused, or even lightly used flatware. Also try to reuse plates when I (rarely) go to buffets.
a bullet point for fine dining service: anything that is not being used should be removed from the table ASAP.
After this exchange, I’ve adjusted my dining behavior. No more plate piling.
Currently, I have friends visiting, a couple and their daughter. While at dinner one night, I was elated to see the wife stacking her family’s menus, even before I had a chance to do so. What a conscientious, efficient individual, I thought to myself. I quickly followed suit, and the ordering proceeded without much fanfare.
Well, there were a couple substitutions, and their 17-year-old inexplicably ordered off the kids’ menu. But I grit my teeth, maintaining laser focus - I’m here to relax, damnit!
Several appetizers arrived, replete with share plates, which we rapidly devoured. Empty plates and soiled utensils were piling up. I positioned my flatware in the customary 4:20 position, to signal I was done, avoiding the stacking temptation.
But my efforts were in vain, as friend’s wife independently stacked several plates, and moved them to the edge of the table.
I tried to provide feedback based on FBG knowledge, but she wasn’t having it. Unstacking wasn’t an option.
So we decided to solicit input from the waitstaff. Customer stacked plates in hand, the waitress sheepishly admitted her preference: let the workers stack the plates.
So you guys were right. I’m convinced, but despite all evidence to the contrary, friend’s wife stacked dinner, then dessert plates. What an uptight, rigid individual, I thought to myself.
Parents did, after nothing was appetizing on the regular menu. She had hamburgers or plain pasta nearly every meal.Did the child request a kids menu? Or was it printed on the regular menu?**UPDATE**in general, the server would prefer you not to stack the plates.Yeah, I think it’s the right thing to do, but sometimes wonder if the waitstaff prefers stacking plates/utensils in a specific way.I always do thisIf there are multiple empty plates, I occasionally stack them as well. I may be wrong, but I believe this helps the server, while decluttering the table
Related, I don’t like unnecessary removal of unused, or even lightly used flatware. Also try to reuse plates when I (rarely) go to buffets.
a bullet point for fine dining service: anything that is not being used should be removed from the table ASAP.
After this exchange, I’ve adjusted my dining behavior. No more plate piling.
Currently, I have friends visiting, a couple and their daughter. While at dinner one night, I was elated to see the wife stacking her family’s menus, even before I had a chance to do so. What a conscientious, efficient individual, I thought to myself. I quickly followed suit, and the ordering proceeded without much fanfare.
Well, there were a couple substitutions, and their 17-year-old inexplicably ordered off the kids’ menu. But I grit my teeth, maintaining laser focus - I’m here to relax, damnit!
Several appetizers arrived, replete with share plates, which we rapidly devoured. Empty plates and soiled utensils were piling up. I positioned my flatware in the customary 4:20 position, to signal I was done, avoiding the stacking temptation.
But my efforts were in vain, as friend’s wife independently stacked several plates, and moved them to the edge of the table.
I tried to provide feedback based on FBG knowledge, but she wasn’t having it. Unstacking wasn’t an option.
So we decided to solicit input from the waitstaff. Customer stacked plates in hand, the waitress sheepishly admitted her preference: let the workers stack the plates.
So you guys were right. I’m convinced, but despite all evidence to the contrary, friend’s wife stacked dinner, then dessert plates. What an uptight, rigid individual, I thought to myself.
Yep. We had an associate attorney at my office for awhile that would do this. I routinely take associates and paralegals to lunch, especially during trials, because we need to keep working so it's absolutely fair/expected for the company to pick up lunch (and, of course, the employee is also paid for this time and/or on salary). Usually it's never an issue, but, this particular associate attorney, would not only pick the restaurant but would then order off the dinner menu, get dessert, and get like an iced tea as well as some espresso shot or something. Final straw was when we went to this place she picked out and the tab between the two of us was ~$100.ordering what you like is fine. always targeting the highest priced menu items is a Richard move imo.Agree it’s obnoxious, but isn’t that what many do on the company dime - expensive meals, hotels, flights, etc.?had a ahole co-worker....... that when we went to lunch and he knew company was paying so he would order most expensive thing on menu
At Chillis...orders appetizer. Full on steak dinner, soda and tea, brownie and ice cream desert....at lunch
I always try to let the person paying order first, then I make sure to not order something significantly more expensive. To help with this tactic if I'm worried the person will likely order after me, I'll try to start a conversation to see what everybody is ordering and go from there.If I know another person is paying the bill, I would order something middle of the price range. Even if I would have ordered something more expensive had I been paying. That just seems like good form.
I pretty much just always order what I would order if I was paying and offer to pay. if that was predetermined, I also try not to go first but probably already know what I plan to get so I'll audible if suddenly other personis WAY lower but that basically never happens.I always try to let the person paying order first, then I make sure to not order something significantly more expensive. To help with this tactic if I'm worried the person will likely order after me, I'll try to start a conversation to see what everybody is ordering and go from there.If I know another person is paying the bill, I would order something middle of the price range. Even if I would have ordered something more expensive had I been paying. That just seems like good form.
Just go with the soup. Save the meal for later.I pretty much just always order what I would order if I was paying and offer to pay. if that was predetermined, I also try not to go first but probably already know what I plan to get so I'll audible if suddenly other personis WAY lower but that basically never happens.I always try to let the person paying order first, then I make sure to not order something significantly more expensive. To help with this tactic if I'm worried the person will likely order after me, I'll try to start a conversation to see what everybody is ordering and go from there.If I know another person is paying the bill, I would order something middle of the price range. Even if I would have ordered something more expensive had I been paying. That just seems like good form.
I agree with not ordering expensive stuff just because someone else is paying, especially if it’s the corporate dime.I always try to let the person paying order first, then I make sure to not order something significantly more expensive. To help with this tactic if I'm worried the person will likely order after me, I'll try to start a conversation to see what everybody is ordering and go from there.If I know another person is paying the bill, I would order something middle of the price range. Even if I would have ordered something more expensive had I been paying. That just seems like good form.
Yeah, that's generally different. My comment is only intended for those situations where it's pretty clear and expected that somebody else is paying.I agree with not ordering expensive stuff just because someone else is paying, especially if it’s the corporate dime.I always try to let the person paying order first, then I make sure to not order something significantly more expensive. To help with this tactic if I'm worried the person will likely order after me, I'll try to start a conversation to see what everybody is ordering and go from there.If I know another person is paying the bill, I would order something middle of the price range. Even if I would have ordered something more expensive had I been paying. That just seems like good form.
But among friends, I’ll order what I want to eat, even if it’s pricy. If paying for the meal is problematic, then you shouldn’t offer in the first place.*
*I go out of my way to pay more than my “fair” share of group tabs, whether splitting, or picking up the whole thing. I also never order more than one drink, and typically stick with water.
Parents did, after nothing was appetizing on the regular menu. She had hamburgers or plain pasta nearly every meal.
I know kids can be picky, and that certainly can extend into adulthood, but my other friends’ teens are much more adventurous eaters.
This doesn't exactly fit this thread but had this situation come up late last year:had a ahole co-worker....... that when we went to lunch and he knew company was paying so he would order most expensive thing on menu
At Chillis...orders appetizer. Full on steak dinner, soda and tea, brownie and ice cream desert....at lunch
Possibly, but she just seemed picky, and a little spoiled.Parents did, after nothing was appetizing on the regular menu. She had hamburgers or plain pasta nearly every meal.
I know kids can be picky, and that certainly can extend into adulthood, but my other friends’ teens are much more adventurous eaters.
Could be tongue-tied. Preferring easy to chew foods (and burgers and pasta would fit that). Associated with being a picky eater, as well as being a slow eater; basically everything that you hate. I’ve got tongue tie and considered surgery for it (might help with my apnea too), but have not done it.
Couple C did the right thing, given the circumstances. What’s the payment situation when you go out now?This doesn't exactly fit this thread but had this situation come up late last year:had a ahole co-worker....... that when we went to lunch and he knew company was paying so he would order most expensive thing on menu
At Chillis...orders appetizer. Full on steak dinner, soda and tea, brownie and ice cream desert....at lunch
Three couples: Couple A - My wife and I, Couple B - Our very close friends, and Couple C - Neighbors of our close friends who we had met a couple times before but were not close with.
We are going out to a high end sushi restaurant to celebrate Husband B getting his PhD. This place doesn't take reservations and is usually a 90minute wait to get in. They also have two menus, normal menu and "$$flown from Japan this morning$$" menu. After we put our names in we decided to go across the street and enjoy some happy hour drinks and apps while we wait for our table. Normally couple A&B just chop the bill 50/50 as it usually ends up fairly close. We suggested this to couple C while at the happy hour and they had no problem with it, happy hour bill was all fairly even, and everything worked out.
THEN we went to dinner. After couples A&B have ordered, wife C orders and is about on par with what everyone else ordered. Husband C literally orders one of everything on the fresh from Japan menu and a $100 bottle of saki "for the table" (after the table has already ordered cocktails). We all end up toasting with the $100 saki bottle and, in fairness, he and his wife probably only had half that bottle. But he then orders a SECOND bottle. At that point my wife looked at me like WTF. Normally, I'm the most laid back guy you'll ever meet so I was going to just roll with it but when he went to the bathroom my wife said she was going to say something when the check came. Whatever, happy wife, happy life.
We finish dinner and the check comes back at $1800... and is already paid by husband C when he "went to the bathroom". Felt like a total ***.
We're now good friends with couple C and have done a few group vacations/golf trips with them but I can't help but wonder what it would be like if they hadn't picked up the tab.
But among friends, I’ll order what I want to eat, even if it’s pricy. If paying for the meal is problematic, then you shouldn’t offer in the first place.*
*I go out of my way to pay more than my “fair” share of group tabs, whether splitting, or picking up the whole thing. I also never order more than one drink, and typically stick with water.
This doesn't exactly fit this thread but had this situation come up late last year:had a ahole co-worker....... that when we went to lunch and he knew company was paying so he would order most expensive thing on menu
At Chillis...orders appetizer. Full on steak dinner, soda and tea, brownie and ice cream desert....at lunch
Three couples: Couple A - My wife and I, Couple B - Our very close friends, and Couple C - Neighbors of our close friends who we had met a couple times before but were not close with.
We are going out to a high end sushi restaurant to celebrate Husband B getting his PhD. This place doesn't take reservations and is usually a 90minute wait to get in. They also have two menus, normal menu and "$$flown from Japan this morning$$" menu. After we put our names in we decided to go across the street and enjoy some happy hour drinks and apps while we wait for our table. Normally couple A&B just chop the bill 50/50 as it usually ends up fairly close. We suggested this to couple C while at the happy hour and they had no problem with it, happy hour bill was all fairly even, and everything worked out.
THEN we went to dinner. After couples A&B have ordered, wife C orders and is about on par with what everyone else ordered. Husband C literally orders one of everything on the fresh from Japan menu and a $100 bottle of saki "for the table" (after the table has already ordered cocktails). We all end up toasting with the $100 saki bottle and, in fairness, he and his wife probably only had half that bottle. But he then orders a SECOND bottle. At that point my wife looked at me like WTF. Normally, I'm the most laid back guy you'll ever meet so I was going to just roll with it but when he went to the bathroom my wife said she was going to say something when the check came. Whatever, happy wife, happy life.
We finish dinner and the check comes back at $1800... and is already paid by husband C when he "went to the bathroom". Felt like a total ***.
We're now good friends with couple C and have done a few group vacations/golf trips with them but I can't help but wonder what it would be like if they hadn't picked up the tab.
I don’t think it’s inconsiderate to feel at ease with friends, and understand what you’re getting into, before you offer.But among friends, I’ll order what I want to eat, even if it’s pricy. If paying for the meal is problematic, then you shouldn’t offer in the first place.*
*I go out of my way to pay more than my “fair” share of group tabs, whether splitting, or picking up the whole thing. I also never order more than one drink, and typically stick with water.
Totally disagree there.
Especially among friends, I want to be considerate there. The "well you shouldn't have offered if it was a problem for you" is never how I'd want it to go with friends.
We normally chop it evenly between whoever is out there. All three couples have 1 kid so even when we all go out as families it ends up being fairly even.Couple C did the right thing, given the circumstances. What’s the payment situation when you go out now?This doesn't exactly fit this thread but had this situation come up late last year:had a ahole co-worker....... that when we went to lunch and he knew company was paying so he would order most expensive thing on menu
At Chillis...orders appetizer. Full on steak dinner, soda and tea, brownie and ice cream desert....at lunch
Three couples: Couple A - My wife and I, Couple B - Our very close friends, and Couple C - Neighbors of our close friends who we had met a couple times before but were not close with.
We are going out to a high end sushi restaurant to celebrate Husband B getting his PhD. This place doesn't take reservations and is usually a 90minute wait to get in. They also have two menus, normal menu and "$$flown from Japan this morning$$" menu. After we put our names in we decided to go across the street and enjoy some happy hour drinks and apps while we wait for our table. Normally couple A&B just chop the bill 50/50 as it usually ends up fairly close. We suggested this to couple C while at the happy hour and they had no problem with it, happy hour bill was all fairly even, and everything worked out.
THEN we went to dinner. After couples A&B have ordered, wife C orders and is about on par with what everyone else ordered. Husband C literally orders one of everything on the fresh from Japan menu and a $100 bottle of saki "for the table" (after the table has already ordered cocktails). We all end up toasting with the $100 saki bottle and, in fairness, he and his wife probably only had half that bottle. But he then orders a SECOND bottle. At that point my wife looked at me like WTF. Normally, I'm the most laid back guy you'll ever meet so I was going to just roll with it but when he went to the bathroom my wife said she was going to say something when the check came. Whatever, happy wife, happy life.
We finish dinner and the check comes back at $1800... and is already paid by husband C when he "went to the bathroom". Felt like a total ***.
We're now good friends with couple C and have done a few group vacations/golf trips with them but I can't help but wonder what it would be like if they hadn't picked up the tab.
This doesn't exactly fit this thread but had this situation come up late last year:had a ahole co-worker....... that when we went to lunch and he knew company was paying so he would order most expensive thing on menu
At Chillis...orders appetizer. Full on steak dinner, soda and tea, brownie and ice cream desert....at lunch
Three couples: Couple A - My wife and I, Couple B - Our very close friends, and Couple C - Neighbors of our close friends who we had met a couple times before but were not close with.
We are going out to a high end sushi restaurant to celebrate Husband B getting his PhD. This place doesn't take reservations and is usually a 90minute wait to get in. They also have two menus, normal menu and "$$flown from Japan this morning$$" menu. After we put our names in we decided to go across the street and enjoy some happy hour drinks and apps while we wait for our table. Normally couple A&B just chop the bill 50/50 as it usually ends up fairly close. We suggested this to couple C while at the happy hour and they had no problem with it, happy hour bill was all fairly even, and everything worked out.
THEN we went to dinner. After couples A&B have ordered, wife C orders and is about on par with what everyone else ordered. Husband C literally orders one of everything on the fresh from Japan menu and a $100 bottle of saki "for the table" (after the table has already ordered cocktails). We all end up toasting with the $100 saki bottle and, in fairness, he and his wife probably only had half that bottle. But he then orders a SECOND bottle. At that point my wife looked at me like WTF. Normally, I'm the most laid back guy you'll ever meet so I was going to just roll with it but when he went to the bathroom my wife said she was going to say something when the check came. Whatever, happy wife, happy life.
We finish dinner and the check comes back at $1800... and is already paid by husband C when he "went to the bathroom". Felt like a total ***.
We're now good friends with couple C and have done a few group vacations/golf trips with them but I can't help but wonder what it would be like if they hadn't picked up the tab.
Yes, I can't imagine any situation other than how that went. If you're going to go that far off scale from what everyone is doing, you're effectively saying "I'll pay for all of this".
That could still be a problem though as some people might feel weird about having their dinner bought for them if they weren't planning on it. Or not like the other guy playing big spender.
Pretty sure Husband C knew when he ordered he was gonna get the whole tab.Couple C did the right thing, given the circumstances. What’s the payment situation when you go out now?This doesn't exactly fit this thread but had this situation come up late last year:had a ahole co-worker....... that when we went to lunch and he knew company was paying so he would order most expensive thing on menu
At Chillis...orders appetizer. Full on steak dinner, soda and tea, brownie and ice cream desert....at lunch
Three couples: Couple A - My wife and I, Couple B - Our very close friends, and Couple C - Neighbors of our close friends who we had met a couple times before but were not close with.
We are going out to a high end sushi restaurant to celebrate Husband B getting his PhD. This place doesn't take reservations and is usually a 90minute wait to get in. They also have two menus, normal menu and "$$flown from Japan this morning$$" menu. After we put our names in we decided to go across the street and enjoy some happy hour drinks and apps while we wait for our table. Normally couple A&B just chop the bill 50/50 as it usually ends up fairly close. We suggested this to couple C while at the happy hour and they had no problem with it, happy hour bill was all fairly even, and everything worked out.
THEN we went to dinner. After couples A&B have ordered, wife C orders and is about on par with what everyone else ordered. Husband C literally orders one of everything on the fresh from Japan menu and a $100 bottle of saki "for the table" (after the table has already ordered cocktails). We all end up toasting with the $100 saki bottle and, in fairness, he and his wife probably only had half that bottle. But he then orders a SECOND bottle. At that point my wife looked at me like WTF. Normally, I'm the most laid back guy you'll ever meet so I was going to just roll with it but when he went to the bathroom my wife said she was going to say something when the check came. Whatever, happy wife, happy life.
We finish dinner and the check comes back at $1800... and is already paid by husband C when he "went to the bathroom". Felt like a total ***.
We're now good friends with couple C and have done a few group vacations/golf trips with them but I can't help but wonder what it would be like if they hadn't picked up the tab.
Pretty sure Husband C knew when he ordered he was gonna get the whole tab.Couple C did the right thing, given the circumstances. What’s the payment situation when you go out now?This doesn't exactly fit this thread but had this situation come up late last year:had a ahole co-worker....... that when we went to lunch and he knew company was paying so he would order most expensive thing on menu
At Chillis...orders appetizer. Full on steak dinner, soda and tea, brownie and ice cream desert....at lunch
Three couples: Couple A - My wife and I, Couple B - Our very close friends, and Couple C - Neighbors of our close friends who we had met a couple times before but were not close with.
We are going out to a high end sushi restaurant to celebrate Husband B getting his PhD. This place doesn't take reservations and is usually a 90minute wait to get in. They also have two menus, normal menu and "$$flown from Japan this morning$$" menu. After we put our names in we decided to go across the street and enjoy some happy hour drinks and apps while we wait for our table. Normally couple A&B just chop the bill 50/50 as it usually ends up fairly close. We suggested this to couple C while at the happy hour and they had no problem with it, happy hour bill was all fairly even, and everything worked out.
THEN we went to dinner. After couples A&B have ordered, wife C orders and is about on par with what everyone else ordered. Husband C literally orders one of everything on the fresh from Japan menu and a $100 bottle of saki "for the table" (after the table has already ordered cocktails). We all end up toasting with the $100 saki bottle and, in fairness, he and his wife probably only had half that bottle. But he then orders a SECOND bottle. At that point my wife looked at me like WTF. Normally, I'm the most laid back guy you'll ever meet so I was going to just roll with it but when he went to the bathroom my wife said she was going to say something when the check came. Whatever, happy wife, happy life.
We finish dinner and the check comes back at $1800... and is already paid by husband C when he "went to the bathroom". Felt like a total ***.
We're now good friends with couple C and have done a few group vacations/golf trips with them but I can't help but wonder what it would be like if they hadn't picked up the tab.
Question I have for @Kanil , did couple B have an idea Husband C might do that? Feels like if they know him well, they might have seen that before.
I have some friends who like to go big on wine, and they usually have a separate tab they take care of, so they can order whatever they want.
Yea.couple B threw hand grenade (couple C) in the middle of the room to see how couple A would handle it
Probably the wrong thread but I'm so confused by the wife and the who pays for who. Are you married or do you just call her wife?I was thinking about this thread when I went out to eat with my wife last night (she wanted to go out rather than make something and was the one paying). I got one of the specials and didn't look at the price (paired with tap water). My wife got a couple of glasses of wine, an appetizer, and an entree. Tax and tip came to north of $100.00. My entree was a few dollars more than hers, but if we broke down the bill, she accounted for two-thirds to my one-third. She didn't really want to spend over $100 on dinner and got all uppity about how much I spent on my entree. I mentioned I didn't realize it cost that much (basically $4-5 more than other entrees) and said if it was too much money, then I would gladly pay for myself. That didn't really go over well, and I was essentially told to quit buying the most expensive thing on the menu. (For the record, I got something mid-range for pricing.) My comeback was that if "we" didn't want to spend that much going out for dinner, then maybe "we" should have picked a different restaurant.
Exactly- aren’t you and your wife paying from the same pot?Probably the wrong thread but I'm so confused by the wife and the who pays for who. Are you married or do you just call her wife?I was thinking about this thread when I went out to eat with my wife last night (she wanted to go out rather than make something and was the one paying). I got one of the specials and didn't look at the price (paired with tap water). My wife got a couple of glasses of wine, an appetizer, and an entree. Tax and tip came to north of $100.00. My entree was a few dollars more than hers, but if we broke down the bill, she accounted for two-thirds to my one-third. She didn't really want to spend over $100 on dinner and got all uppity about how much I spent on my entree. I mentioned I didn't realize it cost that much (basically $4-5 more than other entrees) and said if it was too much money, then I would gladly pay for myself. That didn't really go over well, and I was essentially told to quit buying the most expensive thing on the menu. (For the record, I got something mid-range for pricing.) My comeback was that if "we" didn't want to spend that much going out for dinner, then maybe "we" should have picked a different restaurant.
I started a thread about this a while ago when I learned how common it was for married couples, especially younger ones, kept separate finances.Exactly- aren’t you and your wife paying from the same pot?Probably the wrong thread but I'm so confused by the wife and the who pays for who. Are you married or do you just call her wife?I was thinking about this thread when I went out to eat with my wife last night (she wanted to go out rather than make something and was the one paying). I got one of the specials and didn't look at the price (paired with tap water). My wife got a couple of glasses of wine, an appetizer, and an entree. Tax and tip came to north of $100.00. My entree was a few dollars more than hers, but if we broke down the bill, she accounted for two-thirds to my one-third. She didn't really want to spend over $100 on dinner and got all uppity about how much I spent on my entree. I mentioned I didn't realize it cost that much (basically $4-5 more than other entrees) and said if it was too much money, then I would gladly pay for myself. That didn't really go over well, and I was essentially told to quit buying the most expensive thing on the menu. (For the record, I got something mid-range for pricing.) My comeback was that if "we" didn't want to spend that much going out for dinner, then maybe "we" should have picked a different restaurant.
Here's the threadI started a thread about this a while ago when I learned how common it was for married couples, especially younger ones, kept separate finances.Exactly- aren’t you and your wife paying from the same pot?Probably the wrong thread but I'm so confused by the wife and the who pays for who. Are you married or do you just call her wife?I was thinking about this thread when I went out to eat with my wife last night (she wanted to go out rather than make something and was the one paying). I got one of the specials and didn't look at the price (paired with tap water). My wife got a couple of glasses of wine, an appetizer, and an entree. Tax and tip came to north of $100.00. My entree was a few dollars more than hers, but if we broke down the bill, she accounted for two-thirds to my one-third. She didn't really want to spend over $100 on dinner and got all uppity about how much I spent on my entree. I mentioned I didn't realize it cost that much (basically $4-5 more than other entrees) and said if it was too much money, then I would gladly pay for myself. That didn't really go over well, and I was essentially told to quit buying the most expensive thing on the menu. (For the record, I got something mid-range for pricing.) My comeback was that if "we" didn't want to spend that much going out for dinner, then maybe "we" should have picked a different restaurant.
It's hard for me to understand.
My wife and I have always kept 3 accounts: hers, mine and ours. The ours is the biggest one. We put the most significant amount of paychecks into, use it to pay the major bills like home, cars, etc. If she's buying some shoes, she uses her account. If I am out at the bar with friends, I use mine. If we go out to eat together, sometimes I treat. Sometimes she does. Sometimes we use the joint account. Depends.I started a thread about this a while ago when I learned how common it was for married couples, especially younger ones, kept separate finances.
It's hard for me to understand.
I was thinking about this thread when I went out to eat with my wife last night (she wanted to go out rather than make something and was the one paying). I got one of the specials and didn't look at the price (paired with tap water). My wife got a couple of glasses of wine, an appetizer, and an entree. Tax and tip came to north of $100.00. My entree was a few dollars more than hers, but if we broke down the bill, she accounted for two-thirds to my one-third. She didn't really want to spend over $100 on dinner and got all uppity about how much I spent on my entree. I mentioned I didn't realize it cost that much (basically $4-5 more than other entrees) and said if it was too much money, then I would gladly pay for myself. That didn't really go over well, and I was essentially told to quit buying the most expensive thing on the menu. (For the record, I got something mid-range for pricing.) My comeback was that if "we" didn't want to spend that much going out for dinner, then maybe "we" should have picked a different restaurant.
Yeah, my wife and I have separate accounts, and don’t track how much the other spends, and on what. If it weren’t for recent estate planning, we’d have no idea how much money is in the accounts.I started a thread about this a while ago when I learned how common it was for married couples, especially younger ones, kept separate finances.Exactly- aren’t you and your wife paying from the same pot?Probably the wrong thread but I'm so confused by the wife and the who pays for who. Are you married or do you just call her wife?I was thinking about this thread when I went out to eat with my wife last night (she wanted to go out rather than make something and was the one paying). I got one of the specials and didn't look at the price (paired with tap water). My wife got a couple of glasses of wine, an appetizer, and an entree. Tax and tip came to north of $100.00. My entree was a few dollars more than hers, but if we broke down the bill, she accounted for two-thirds to my one-third. She didn't really want to spend over $100 on dinner and got all uppity about how much I spent on my entree. I mentioned I didn't realize it cost that much (basically $4-5 more than other entrees) and said if it was too much money, then I would gladly pay for myself. That didn't really go over well, and I was essentially told to quit buying the most expensive thing on the menu. (For the record, I got something mid-range for pricing.) My comeback was that if "we" didn't want to spend that much going out for dinner, then maybe "we" should have picked a different restaurant.
It's hard for me to understand.
That’s what we do as well, and me and the wife usually “win”.I don't understand any of this. My friends and I either try to sneak a card to the server to pay the tab or we pay credit card roulette.
Yes, we are actually married and have been for a very long time. When we got married, she had young kids and got child support for years, so she didn't want to co-mingle our finances. It never changed since then. The way we do things, we each pay toward our joint bills, pay our individual bills, and whatever is left over is our individual discretionary money. When it comes to food, the way we do it is we each cook two nights a week, one night is usually leftover night or guys or girls not out, and we each pay one night a week to go out to dinner on the weekends. If either one of us doesn't feel like cooking on our assigned night, that person can elect to go out to eat instead (and pick up the tab). That's what happened on the night I described. She hasn't really come to the realization that everything is in reality "our" money. I realize this is probably an atypical situation, but it's been that way the entire time for us.Probably the wrong thread but I'm so confused by the wife and the who pays for who. Are you married or do you just call her wife?I was thinking about this thread when I went out to eat with my wife last night (she wanted to go out rather than make something and was the one paying). I got one of the specials and didn't look at the price (paired with tap water). My wife got a couple of glasses of wine, an appetizer, and an entree. Tax and tip came to north of $100.00. My entree was a few dollars more than hers, but if we broke down the bill, she accounted for two-thirds to my one-third. She didn't really want to spend over $100 on dinner and got all uppity about how much I spent on my entree. I mentioned I didn't realize it cost that much (basically $4-5 more than other entrees) and said if it was too much money, then I would gladly pay for myself. That didn't really go over well, and I was essentially told to quit buying the most expensive thing on the menu. (For the record, I got something mid-range for pricing.) My comeback was that if "we" didn't want to spend that much going out for dinner, then maybe "we" should have picked a different restaurant.
You don't understand splitting a bill?I don't understand any of this. My friends and I either try to sneak a card to the server to pay the tab or we pay credit card roulette.