UPDATE:
Last week, FIL saw his primary physician, who performed a SLUMS evaluation for dementia. He scored 17/30. Less than 20 is demented. Follow up pending with geriatrics.
Yesterday, FIL went with his fiancee to the Department of Health, originally to obtain records of her prior marriage and divorce. When they got there, she refused to obtain her paperwork, unless he provided his marriage/divorce records, which he requested. Unclear if she requested any old records; instead, she convinced him to apply for a marriage license. That said, he claims he still needs her records, to petition the church to get her prior marriage annulled, consistent with his Catholic beliefs. Nonetheless, he tentatively announced wedding plans mid-March.
Meanwhile, my wife's friend, the family lawyer, looked up his fiancee's background. She has been divorced twice, most recently in HI about 20 years ago. She was ~20 years younger than her 2nd husband, and they were only married for a year or so. During that time, she reportedly demanded ownership of his home, and we he refused, kicked him out of the house. Subsequently, he lived outside, on his property in a tent and a cave(!). He also filed a TRO. She requested alimony, which was denied, and she refused to disclose her finances at the divorce hearing.
As we coincidentally had an appointment for our own estate planning, we asked our lawyer to review his trust and power of attorney documents. She said they are outdated, but was particularly concerned the healthcare/financial power of attorney only listed my deceased mother-in-law. So now we're trying to convince him to review the documents, and add my wife to the POA, at the minimum. My wife also had her name added to both his bank accounts today.
We just had lunch, telling him what we had found out about his fiancee, but he wasn't interested. He insists he "knows her" well enough to proceed with the wedding, once her prior divorce is Catholic cleansed.
What's the next move?