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So I've been on this board for, like, forever. I yammer a lot but don't typically get involved in the deep threads. However, I got to thinking today and figured I'd share this (and see what others here would have done), as tomorrow my child has surgery again (hopefully minor) - the last time he had surgery is the basis of my story.
October 1, last year. My father had been in ICU for 6 weeks and gone up and down in his health, but never quite good enough to get ejected from ICU. I spent every weekend (he was 5 hours away) and many other days down with him. Right around this time my oldest, 15, tore his ACL in football practice. One of those injuries you know is bad - he went down without anyone touching him. We schedule surgery for the 15th as he has some meniscus issues that needed relatively prompt attention. As a typical kid he's pretty scared about the whole thing (I'm just scared about the anesthesia part). During the next two weeks my father does ok and then nosedives. I get a call at about 1am on the 15th that all his systems are shutting down and him passing on is imminent. Child's is scheduled to be in surgery at 8am.
Given the distance I'm left with a pretty simple choice - see my father one last time or stay with my child through his surgery?
I made my choice and I'm comfortable with it. I'd be interested to hear what others would have done here.
October 1, last year. My father had been in ICU for 6 weeks and gone up and down in his health, but never quite good enough to get ejected from ICU. I spent every weekend (he was 5 hours away) and many other days down with him. Right around this time my oldest, 15, tore his ACL in football practice. One of those injuries you know is bad - he went down without anyone touching him. We schedule surgery for the 15th as he has some meniscus issues that needed relatively prompt attention. As a typical kid he's pretty scared about the whole thing (I'm just scared about the anesthesia part). During the next two weeks my father does ok and then nosedives. I get a call at about 1am on the 15th that all his systems are shutting down and him passing on is imminent. Child's is scheduled to be in surgery at 8am.
Given the distance I'm left with a pretty simple choice - see my father one last time or stay with my child through his surgery?
I made my choice and I'm comfortable with it. I'd be interested to hear what others would have done here.
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