Dennis Castro
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Jan is a forty-something, totally blind lady living in Pennsylvania who wants to end a relationship with her (fully sighted) boyfriend Dean. They have been together for several years, and although he has his own place an hour or so away, he has effectively been living in her house for some time now. He has a job at a supermarket in her town and has changed his address to hers. I guess that means they are effectively married by common-law, whatever that means.
Now Dean has always been a little rough around the edges compared to Jan, who has a very good well-paying job, owns her own house and is an adherent to to clean living. The problem is, but over the last few years, he seems to have given up any pretense of being a decent human being. He drinks a lot, and I mean a lot. We were talking 12 - 14 beers by 2 PM on his days off. On workdays, he starts when he gets home and in any case drinks until he passes out. Every single day. He has absolutely destroyed her good credit, contributes nothing, and has gotten to be verbally abusive.
She wants out, but there are some issues. For one, she is blind and is honestly afraid to confront him. Even if he weren’t to ever strike her, which is within the realm of possibility according to her, she is quite sure he would go on a rampage of some sort that would at least leave her house and possessions in a very bad way. Just changing the locks and disappearing for a few days is out of the question for the same reason. She has preemptively talked to the police, but there’s nothing they can do in terms of having her back unless Dean causes real trouble.
She knows that I frequent the FFA and has asked me to look for advice on how to move forward. She doesn’t know how or if she can legally evict him or take some other measure given that they have the same address. If there are any lawyers in the house or anyone else who has insight into this sort of thing, Jan and I are all ears. As I said, she is afraid for her safety, and honestly, she is really sweet and cripplingly afraid of confrontation, which is why she has allowed this to go on so long.
Now Dean has always been a little rough around the edges compared to Jan, who has a very good well-paying job, owns her own house and is an adherent to to clean living. The problem is, but over the last few years, he seems to have given up any pretense of being a decent human being. He drinks a lot, and I mean a lot. We were talking 12 - 14 beers by 2 PM on his days off. On workdays, he starts when he gets home and in any case drinks until he passes out. Every single day. He has absolutely destroyed her good credit, contributes nothing, and has gotten to be verbally abusive.
She wants out, but there are some issues. For one, she is blind and is honestly afraid to confront him. Even if he weren’t to ever strike her, which is within the realm of possibility according to her, she is quite sure he would go on a rampage of some sort that would at least leave her house and possessions in a very bad way. Just changing the locks and disappearing for a few days is out of the question for the same reason. She has preemptively talked to the police, but there’s nothing they can do in terms of having her back unless Dean causes real trouble.
She knows that I frequent the FFA and has asked me to look for advice on how to move forward. She doesn’t know how or if she can legally evict him or take some other measure given that they have the same address. If there are any lawyers in the house or anyone else who has insight into this sort of thing, Jan and I are all ears. As I said, she is afraid for her safety, and honestly, she is really sweet and cripplingly afraid of confrontation, which is why she has allowed this to go on so long.
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